For more information on how to get involved in National Infertility Awareness Week visit Resolve's website. Please share these letters and comment if you can relate or wish you had told your friend how you were or are feeling.
I am so scared to face you and your beautiful kids during fun outings or holidays. It pains me to be struggling to conceive knowing that you are enjoying all the joys of motherhood. I am not jealous; I am envious of you and your beautiful family. Your kids are like the kids I don't have just yet.
I feel like I might burden you or make you feel sorry for me if I mention my inner, deep struggles. Please don't say to me, "Take my kids for one day and you won't want to have kids!" As I sit there with no words just a smile holding back the tears. Don't ask me again, when we will have kids so I can catch up with you. When we go out for date night with our husbands I wish you would curb the get a room, get drunk, make babies comment; it hurts! Some things I know you don't mean but if you only knew what we were going through you might understand.
I feel lost and alone with nowhere to turn. I know my best friend is always there for me but I want to know its the right time to tell you so you can hear me and not feeling bad for my situation. I feel a bit better by expressing myself through this letter. Thank you!
You are my friend for life but to tell you that I am not able to have children is something I can't come to tell you. I feel like I am holding onto a secret with not telling you but I want to be sure I can someday give you good news. Not only can't I tell you about me having problems to have a baby I can;t bear to tell you about my two miscarriages. Just when I thought I was there and ready to tell you about us having to do IVF to conceive is when I think let me wait until I am twelve weeks. Since that has not come. We are considering adoption too but that scares me to tell you since my family is sharing too many opinions with that. I am hopeful that one day I will be able to tell you. Sometimes I feel like you know with our deep conversations and you are just waiting for me to say it. I can't! So if you know maybe you can help me open up because I can really need my friend that I know would understand. With life being busy and your schedule with your kids I wouldn't want to take that joy from you by burdening you with my sorrows.
The I have no idea how to tell my friend I am infertile
Most of my friends know how I am having problems but they continue to say the stupidest things.
Stop posting your pregnancy announcements to my Facebook pages with your sonograms! I cannot see one more. I am happy for you but stop posting them. You never know what people are struggling with behind closed doors. Since my friends know my struggles I think maybe a private message before the big bang or a phone call would be nice. I know Facebook is there for things happy and sad as I write this anonymous vent I know it will be out there but nobody will know its me!
If one more person says to just adopt I am going to scream. Once you look into adoption you will become pregnant. Think before you talk. Go out, get drunk and stop thinking about becoming pregnant and boom it will happen.
If you have children cherish them don't complain, fuss and look for the worst in the experience of parenthood.
I would give anything to be a Mom. Yes, I might seem bitter but infertility can take you to that place and its hard to come out because all you are looking for is that light! I already feel helpless so understand as if you were struggling.
Be more considerate to the infertile couple in the group